I am assessing the size of your eyes and the magnificence of each, the crevices of your earlobes, the shape of your nose, the way it gorgeously sits on your face, the curves of your lips, your beautifully-sculpted cheeks, the way your tongue dances in your mouth as you speak.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, literally. If you can sincerely find someone or something else beautiful, especially one that is often considered otherwise, without an iota of doubt, you are beautiful too.
Isn’t it a crying shame, darling, that you worry so much about being beautiful, so much so that you don’t know how good it is to be. You don’t enjoy the beauty of being, and you don’t know what beauty is, or perhaps you do, you see the beauty in other people clearly, but go blind when you see yourself.
Do you just see beauty, or do you feel it? Do you hear it? Do you know it?
You can write about “nothing” but you can’t write about nothing. Your writing is beautiful, and most importantly, it’s a part of your soul; it’s yours, and you should never compare it to anyone else’s.
In Japan, ceramics are not thrown away when they are broken/shattered. Instead, they are repaired through an ancient practice called kintsugi (金継ぎ), or kintsukuroi (金繕い), and it literally means golden (“kin”) repair (“tsugi”). The broken pieces are attached together with precious metal– liquid gold, liquid silver or lacquer dusted with powdered gold, and the bowl, cup or whatever the ceramic is, is beautifully enhanced after the process.
The Japanese art of kintsugi teaches that broken objects are not to be hidden. Instead, they are to be displayed with pride.
What we can all learn from this is that we can heal beautifully if we allow ourselves to go through the process. It’s up to us to decide whether we want to dispose ourselves- our desires for love, happiness, success and good change- or choose to heal our wounds with liquid gold, irrespective of how much it hurts.
Scars from our healing are not to be hidden. The saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” definitely applies here.
Before I ask you that question, my first question to you would be “how do you look?”
If I don’t know how you see things, how you see me, how you think, why you choose to think the way you think, your opinions would not matter so much to me. Your opinions on how I look would be just that, your opinions, not what really is, and I would not react to it like it is the all-in-all truth about me.
If you think a well made up face makes a woman attractive, or very long hair, or an hour-glass shape, and I don’t have any of those, I’m never going to be up to standard to you.
This should apply to every other sphere of your life too. If you are watching the news, for instance, be very conscious of the fact that Fox News would narrate occurrences or explain issues differently from MSNBC. They are not owned by members of the public, and there are private interests who want you to see things in certain ways that benefit them.
Before you take someone’s opinion on how you look, be sure that they can see, that they can really see you, and that they can see beyond whatever is before them.
Listen to how they think you look, but be conscious of how they look, and how they see.
Were there terrible men and women in your lives, relatives or non-relatives, at any point, who found it pleasing to compare your beauty to someone else’s, in order to get to you and make you think less of yourself or get you to agree to whatever perversion they wanted to try with you.
“You are fine but not as fine as your mother; why are you feeling yourself? Remove your skirt, let me see your legs” and such.
I bring you healing. You are beautiful, and I’m not just trying to patronize you. Don’t ever let anyone determine what you think of yourself.